What to do when you’re feeling overwhelmed

When you’ve got a cold, the obvious thing to do is to take some cold remedy.

When you can’t sleep, the doctor might prescribe a mild sedative.

Or when you’re constantly tired then the advice is obvious:

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Another failed diet? Check out your relationship!

Newsflash!

Focusing on your relationship will improve your health!

Putting on weight when you worked so hard at losing it in the first place is so frustrating!

And, when your energy levels and your self-confidence are low, the quality of your life as a whole is affected.

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What happens during an exploratory conversation?

One of the first questions people tend to ask when they call me to enquire about my offer for a free exploratory conversation is,

“What happens during that conversation?”

It’s so common that I thought I’d write a blog about what actually goes on in an exploratory or chemistry session.

Purpose

The idea behind such a conversation is to clarify where you’re now – what your current situation is, how you feel about it, what you might already have tried to make things better, what worked, what didn’t and why.

If you tried something and it worked why did you stop?  Perhaps it wasn’t enough or you did sort out that particular situation but a new one popped up.  This is your chance to find out.

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5 Ways to rediscover your love for your partner

You may have been feeling dissatisfied in your relationship focusing on all the kinds of things that irritate you about your partner and everything that’s missing but has it occurred to you that you can change all that, that you can – if you’re willing – rediscover your love for your partner?

Believe it or not, that’s a choice, a decision you can make right here, right now.

Chances are that it’s not just you who’re feeling unappreciated, taken for granted, hurt and resentful, that your partner feels as you do with neither one of you having felt able to express your feelings in such a way that the other can hear.

Chances are that your habits of criticising, defending, blaming and going on the counter-attack have led you to this place where you’re both feeling unloved and perhaps even lonely in your relationship.

If you’ve had enough then this is your chance to change things by doing something different:

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I’m looking for happy couples for my next book!

Hello everybody!

It occurred to me that, when it comes to sharing with you what I learned that does and does not work in a relationship, I’ve turned to my own experience.

While this is a valid approach, I’ve decided to make my next book about you because, obviously, mine isn’t the only way.

I’m keen to to hear from those of you who have been happily married for at least 20 years and learn about (and share) your experience of how you built your relationship so that it stood the test of time.

More details below:

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What has love and happiness got to do with your health and wellbeing?

I recently gave a talk about how I met my ex-husband, Jim.  As I began to develop the story it brought back an important memory which I would like to share with you.

The real story doesn’t actually start when I first met Jim.  It started with the kind of young woman I was – insecure, unsure of her attractiveness and lovability.

As a result, I made some very poor choices, the worst of which was the choice of life partner.

Having made my choice, I stayed in my marriage for 37 years, despite the bitter disappointment and emotional pain, and the only way I could do so was by pretending it wasn’t all that bad.

This is called ‘being in denial’ and I became so good at it that I actually came to believe my own deceptions.

But here’s the thing.

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Haven’t I been here before?

How long does it take to learn that lesson?

You may remember this question I asked you only a month ago:

“How long do you keep on doing the same thing over and over again before you realise it ain’t working!”

I sort of ‘woke up’ when I caught myself thinking, “Hang on a minute! Haven’t I been here before?”

I’m so wedded to achieving my big dream that I keep trying out all kinds of things. That’s a good thing, isn’t it? I’m always preaching about experimenting.

I’m also always adding the caveat – if it works, carry on doing it; if it doesn’t, try something else.

I just realised I wasn’t listening to myself.

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Stop kissing frogs and let true love find you!

Recently I’ve been getting quite a lot of messages from women whose relationship have crashed and, not surprisingly, feel devastated.

Those were fairly long relationships and, even then, they were all sorts of reasons why they felt unhappy, mostly because their partner didn’t meet some of their basic needs.

The latest one was concerned with lack of commitment.  Jenny and her partner had been together for nearly 6 years when she said something about him not being committed to their relationship.

Then, to my surprise, she added that he hadn’t been committed to his previous partner of 17 years!

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Happy Valentine’s Day! Or is it…

I have noticed that there are 3 kinds of people:

  1. Those who are terrified of change and choose to stay in their comfort zone. They  fear the unknown more than anything else. Their motto is “better the devil you know than the devil you don’t” and are afraid that, if they take the risk, they’ll go “from the frying pan into the fire.”
  1. Then there are those who are scared of taking that step but they take a deep breath and go for it.
    1. And then there are those who take the risk, embrace the change, take the chance.

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