When you’ve got a cold, the obvious thing to do is to take some cold remedy.
When you can’t sleep, the doctor might prescribe a mild sedative.
Or when you’re constantly tired then the advice is obvious:
Eat more fruit and veg and less fast food and cakes, get more exercise, give up smoking, reduce your drinking and so on.
And what about when you’re feeling overwhelmed? Is there a pill for that? No, I didn’t think so. Still, healthier eating, more exercise, less alcohol is still the preferred option – and it’s a good one!
But are we missing a trick? Is there something else we might want to look at?
I’ll give you three guesses.
Never mind, I’ll tell you:
Look at your relationship with yourself.
All of the above are just symptoms of something deeper, more profound that needs to be addressed.
Our mind, our body and our spirit are inseparable. We cannot treat one and ignore the other.
Our bodies go downhill when our emotional engine is depleted.
When our emotional engine is empty from too much giving, too many challenges, expectations, duties – our system simply shuts down and we compensate in ways that don’t work for us – mostly by making poor choices that have both short and long term effects.
Our limiting beliefs often stop us from doing something that would benefit us, for example taking time off. Just thinking about it gets our Gremlin, our inner critic ramping up the guilt and making us feel selfish which leads to us beating ourselves up for being a bad person.
But I’m here to tell you, that looking after yourself, doing whatever it takes to recharge your physical and emotional batteries is not only NOT selfish but absolutely essential.
Not doing so will only make you feel even more overwhelmed, exhausted and resentful – and that serves nobody, not you and not whoever depends on you.
You’re probably out of practice doing something for yourself so take 10 minutes to think about it. What makes you feel good?
Is it listening to music, reading a book, going for a walk, calling a friend, sitting still?
You might like to try meditation or mindfulness, you might start by stopping and smelling the roses, metaphorically speaking – or even actually doing so.
And do something, anything – however small and do it regularly.
With love and gratitude,
P.S. I coach women over 50 who have not yet made the connection between the quality of their relationship – with themselves and others – and the quality of their health and wellbeing.
P.P.S. My third book, ‘Open Your Heart: The 7 Secrets Of Strong And Loving Relationships’ is now on Amazon and getting 5* reviews!