‘Sabotaging yourself’, ‘letting yourself down’, ‘betraying yourself’ – each of them very strong expressions. The obvious question would be: “why would we do a thing like that?”. My answer is “probably because we don’t realise we’re doing it”.
So what does it look like when we sabotage ourselves? In my case, self-sabotage was practically a way of life. There are as many ways to sabotage ourselves as there are people. One of mine was to twist myself into a chameleon to try and be what I believed people wanted me to be, all in an effort to be liked, approved of and accepted. Another was my tendency to put other people’s needs ahead of my own, even the significant ones.
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