I love hugging! I know not everybody does but you might like to know that, at least this time, you can enjoy something that is really good for you – not like my favourite pain au chocolat or chocolate ice cream – delicious but sinful. Non-sexual touch has huge benefits: Not only can … [Read more...] about There’s more to hugging than meets the eye
Despite the deeply personal nature of this blog I feel compelled to share my experience because I believe the message is important. I was married for 37 years and, just over 8 years ago, I took the painful step of leaving my marriage. I did it because I finally admitted to myself that I deserved better. Over the last 8 years I processed most of my baggage and I recently … [Read more...] about Love and loss happens but don’t be afraid to try again
Most people define courage as the absence of fear yet nothing could be further from the truth. When I was younger, my life was dominated by all kinds of fears which would hold me back in all areas of my life. Not long ago, I wrote a blog called ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway – really?’ I then went on to share the two biggest examples of ‘going for it’ in my life: leaving my marriage of 37 years and leaving my well paid job at the Institute of Directors. These decisions took a long time … [Read more...] about If you want to get rid of fear, here’s how
I’ve always been fascinated by people who are clearly self-confident. How do you know when you meet a genuinely confident person? What do you believe they’re like when no-one is looking? I’ve come across a number of beliefs – or perhaps I should say ‘myths’ – that people hold about those they believe to be confident which used to include me: They tend to take people at face value and they, therefore, also tend to believe that confident people have got it ‘all together’, that they don’t … [Read more...] about What is self-confidence?
When things go wrong most people’s reaction is frustration and disappointment. That’s understandable. However, setbacks, disappointments and failures have a useful role to play in our personal growth and development. I had an exploratory meeting with a client once and I asked him, “what do you do when you have a setback?” He replied, “I panic.” I then followed this with “And what do you do after you finish panicking?” and he said “I continue to panic.” It turned out that he had been hugely … [Read more...] about Setbacks: catastrophes or opportunities?