For a long time people used to say to me, “Get out of your own way!” That always used to puzzle me. "What the hell does that mean!?!", I wondered. "How does one stand in one’s own way?" The whole thing sounded just too woolly. Then … [Read more...] about How I nearly sabotaged myself
Sounds like the title of one of those old films, doesn’t it? But there’s nothing frivolous about the question. When some of my older female clients start working with me, they often say the same thing, “Now that I’m retired, I seem to have become invisible!”. How does one become an invisible woman when, before they retired, they were out there, making a contribution, making a difference? I have a friend, a very special woman. She’s vibrant, alive, USEFUL! She also has a close family and … [Read more...] about Are you the invisible woman?
Most people define courage as the absence of fear yet nothing could be further from the truth. When I was younger, my life was dominated by all kinds of fears which would hold me back in all areas of my life. Not long ago, I wrote a blog called ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway – really?’ I then went on to share the two biggest examples of ‘going for it’ in my life: leaving my marriage of 37 years and leaving my well paid job at the Institute of Directors. These decisions took a long time … [Read more...] about If you want to get rid of fear, here’s how
If you’re due to retire it is because you have chosen to do so. However, that doesn’t mean you won’t experience anxiety – what will it be like? The uncertainty can be stressful and draining. In my conversations with people in the same situation I’m struck by how many suddenly become very busy. They tell me they have to tie loose ends; that they don’t want to leave a mess, that they have to hand over to their successor, that they have to train them from scratch. The extent of their … [Read more...] about Are you due to retire? If so, here’s how NOT to do it
Ever since I decided to work with senior and professional people nearing retirement – who are dreading it, I started a process of my own around my own age – 67. Although nothing in me fits any of the criteria as dictated by social norms such as appearance (I’m blessed with great genes), health and wellbeing, and the way I think and act, I was still wondering “is this it?” Surveys into the perception … [Read more...] about A new model for ageing
When I turned 60 I had to face the fact that I was heading towards retirement, something I had never even considered. I probably was in denial and only came out of it because of a message from the HR department. I had been in my job for the last 8 years. I really enjoyed the work and I was well paid. Also, I had a really good relationship with my colleagues – all of which I knew I would lose once I actually retired. The HR message served to put the whole issue right in front of my face. I … [Read more...] about What does it mean to retire?