3 life wisdoms that transformed my life – and how they can change yours too

I recently started reflecting how I got to where I am today and the one thing I keep coming back to is – meeting Alan, my first life coach.

His wisdom has stayed with me over the years so I thought I’d share some of them with you.

    1. The story of the plant

It’s 1996, and Alan and I are sitting in the foyer of one of those large hotels in London.  It’s one of those posh hotels with a secluded space apart from the hustle and bustle of guests checking in and out.

Alan is sitting on one of those plush sofas; I choose the armchair.  Between us is a large coffee table with a large plant, one of those real ones, not the artificial sort.

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The unexpected secret to self-sabotage – and how to stop it (Part 2)

Building on my introduction – or teaser – from last week, I’d like to start by describing the kind of journey you’re embarking on – but first, a word of warning:

You’ll need to stick at it, something which is not always easy.  But, if you do, the rewards are amazing.

This is not just about rebuilding your self-confidence but about developing the inner peace that comes with letting go of the trivial stuff that overwhelm us with anxiety and guilt. 

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The unexpected secret to self-sabotage – and how to stop it (Part 1)

This is the first of a series of blogs about a subject that is close to my heart:

How we sabotage our confidence and what we can do about it.

Here’s an example:

I’ve always preferred being in small groups, ideally just one or two other friends.  Larger groups make me feel uncomfortable.

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The beauty of power and how to get more of it

shutterstock_220931875The idea that you can feel powerful doesn’t sit comfortably, especially if you are a woman.

It’s a word most people usually associated with men. So when I suggest to a client that she’s more powerful than she imagines, the reaction is ambivalent.

That changes when I go on to describe my definition of what it means to be powerful:

To have the ability to influence, to make things happen, to make a difference.

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If you’d like to know how to change your environment, here’s how

Did you know that the quality of your environment – where you live, what you do, the friends you have, how you get on with your family, in short, your life and all your relationships – they all start in your head, with your thoughts.

hYour thoughts are a reflection of how you see yourself, whether you like and trust yourself or not, how you perceive other people and how you interpret everything that happens to you.

I had a hugely significant experience a few years ago. I’d been struggling to build my coaching practice and kept thinking, “I don’t know what else to do!; nothing I do works!”

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The power of the mind: how to make it work for you

hSome years ago I attended a personal development weekend residential programme. By the second day we had all bonded and the facilitator set us an exercise:

He asked for volunteers and Sarah raised her hand. She was selected and

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