What to do when you’re feeling overwhelmed

When you’ve got a cold, the obvious thing to do is to take some cold remedy.

When you can’t sleep, the doctor might prescribe a mild sedative.

Or when you’re constantly tired then the advice is obvious:

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The beauty of power and how to get more of it

shutterstock_220931875The idea that you can feel powerful doesn’t sit comfortably, especially if you are a woman.

It’s a word most people usually associated with men. So when I suggest to a client that she’s more powerful than she imagines, the reaction is ambivalent.

That changes when I go on to describe my definition of what it means to be powerful:

To have the ability to influence, to make things happen, to make a difference.

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Prepare to be amazed when you change your beliefs from limiting to empowering

h‘Tis nothing good or bad but thinking makes it so’, William Shakespeare

We will most likely be familiar with this quote but it needs expanding: It’s not enough to think it; you also need to believe that ‘it’ – whatever ‘it’ may be – is true. That’s what, over time, leads to self-fulfilling prophecies.

Even though

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Who do you think you are?

flowers_poppy_red_flower_238895This question – “who do you think you are?” – may sound a bit vague but is nothing of the sort. It’s as practical and concrete as a brick.

Who we think we are determines

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What does the law of gravity and our comfort zone have in common?

We’re often being encouraged to expand our comfort zone – to push beyond it, to take risks. In other words ‘to feel the fear and do it anyway’.

So, to answer the question ‘what does the law of gravity have in common with our comfort zone?’, both can sometimes feel impossible to transcend even though we know, without a shadow of a doubt, that it can be done – after all, birds fly and so do airliners.

Why are we compelled to stay within our comfort zone?

As for our comfort zone, as Frances Coombes, NLP Master Practitioner, put it in the December 2001 edition of ‘Salesdirector’, “… the greatest instinct of human beings is not survival but

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Self-sabotage and other destructive behaviours

‘Sabotaging yourself’, ‘letting yourself down’, ‘betraying yourself’ – each of them are very strong expressions. The obvious question would be: “why would we do a thing like that?”.  My answer is “probably because we don’t realise we’re doing it”.  But we do experience the results even though we don’t realise we are the ones who have created it.

Common self-sabotage

So what does it look like when we sabotage

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