How to rekindle romance no matter how long you’ve been together

On 12 September 2018 I published a blog called ‘How To Really Listen And Make People Fall In Love With You’.

It was a detailed blog about the mechanics of listening.

The ability to listen well makes such a huge difference to our relationships that I feel compelled to address it again from a slightly different angle.

What triggered this train of thought was watching Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt, his wife, being interviewed.  They are relationship gurus and have been working for decades helping couples who are struggling with their relationships.

Interestingly, they articulated what I know to be true from my own experience which is that poor communication between people leads to toxic relationships by which I mean relationships where you feel unloved, unimportant, even invisible as well as angry, frustrated and resentful.

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How to really listen and make people fall in love with you

I’d been married about 20 years, feeling unloved and unimportant when I met a man at one of the workshops I liked to attend.

His name was Bob (not his real name) and we were working in the same group.  He appeared to be bowled over by me, a real novelty for me.  Nobody had ever been bowled over by me before and my marriage wasn’t exactly conducive to me thinking of myself as an attractive woman.

But that wasn’t the thing that struck me about him.  It was that he found me interesting! That was even more of a novelty for me!

Is it any wonder that I fell head over heels in love with him?  Well, I didn’t exactly fall in love with him but I did go to bed with him – not because of the sex but because I’d felt lonely and practically invisible for such a long time and here was a man who really listened to me.

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