Here’s a question: What story are you telling yourself about yourself? We have stories we tell ourselves about anything and everything – ourselves, other people and life in general. A personal favourite of mine is the ‘helpless’ story. This one is – or could have been – mine: “After 37 years, I decided I deserved better and finally left my marriage. Of course, it was his fault. I had a list of complaints as long as my arm: everything he said or didn’t say; everything he did or didn’t do – … [Read more...] about How changing my story changed my life
When things go wrong most people’s reaction is frustration and disappointment. That’s understandable. However, setbacks, disappointments and failures have a useful role to play in our personal growth and development. I had an exploratory meeting with a client once and I asked him, “what do you do when you have a setback?” He replied, “I panic.” I then followed this with “And what do you do after you finish panicking?” and he said “I continue to panic.” It turned out that he had been hugely … [Read more...] about Setbacks: catastrophes or opportunities?