The unexpected secret to self-sabotage – and how to stop it (Part 1)

This is the first of a series of blogs about a subject that is close to my heart:

How we sabotage our confidence and what we can do about it.

Here’s an example:

I’ve always preferred being in small groups, ideally just one or two other friends.  Larger groups make me feel uncomfortable.

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The healing power of self-compassion

My ideas and insights about the Gremlin and how to manage it have always had a fundamental role to play when it comes to explaining and dealing with the vast range of our relationships and experiences.

Mostly, I focus on the power of self-awareness because you can’t change any aspect of your life until you come to see how you contribute to that relationship or situation. Seeing it is deeply empowering because, while you cannot change how other people behave, you can change the way you engage, communicate and connect – and that includes your relationship with your Gremlin.

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The Gremlin: the great debilitator

A while back I posted a number of blogs introducing the concept of the Gremlin (your inner critic) and suggested ways to manage it.

I’ve been familiar with my Gremlin for as long as I remember, even when I didn’t have name for it.  I even commented how important it was to be aware of how it works because it affects the quality of our life like nothing else can.

Probably the most important point I made was that, even when we learn to master it, we will always have to watch out because it will never be defeated.

How true that statement is was brought home to me over the

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Grow Your Confidence and Fabulous Relationships will Follow