The unexpected secret to self-sabotage (Part 3)

Last week, in Part 2, I suggested an exercise that encouraged you to deliberately look for positive facts and then turn those factual events into experiences – making it a point to savour and enjoy every aspect of each one of them.

Today I thought I’d share with you one of my own experiences but, before I do, let me tell you what the longer term consequences are.

The experience I’ll describe in a moment has huge benefits which go beyond the actual immediate enjoyment.

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Why doing something pleasurable increases your energy levels

hOne of the most important things you can do for other people is to do enjoyable things for yourself, things that uplift you and give you pleasure.

It won’t surprise you to hear that I get a lot of resistance when I suggest this. “I don’t have the time”, “I have too much to do” and the worst excuse of the lot, “it would be selfish”.

And yet,

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Are you due to retire? If so, here’s how NOT to do it

If you’re due to retire it is because you have chosen to do so.  However, that doesn’t mean you won’t experience anxiety – what will it be like?  The uncertainty can be stressful and draining.

In my conversations with people in the same situation I’m struck by how many suddenly become very busy.  They tell me they have to tie loose ends; that they don’t want to leave a mess, that they have to hand over to their successor, that they have to train them from scratch.

The extent of their

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A new model for ageing

Ever since I decided to work with senior and professional people nearing retirement – who are dreading it, I started a process of my own around my own age – 67.  Although nothing in me fits any of the criteria as dictated by social norms such as appearance (I’m blessed with great genes), health and wellbeing, and the way I think and act, I was still wondering “is this it?”

Surveys into the perception

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