7 ways to thrive in a challenging world

So there we are – or, more accurately, there I am, again.

I thought life had stopping pissing on me but no.  As I said, there I am, again.

Except this time it feels different.

Last time I felt numb, in shock.  It took me a while to recover.

This time, not only am I not in shock, I’m feeling at peace.  I know that I will overcome this latest challenge – in the face of no evidence whatsoever.  Is this hope?

So why the difference?

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Next time you’re facing a serious challenge, remember this

Thank you to those of you who sent me some wonderful replies to my last blog about what to do when you experience severe setbacks.

Apart from feeling comforted from reading your encouraging comments and words of support, I also noticed that the sharp edge of my hopelessness and helplessness had dissipated.

Feeling loved, heard and understood goes a long way no matter where the love, listening  and understanding comes from – our partner, our family, our friends, even strangers.

Here are other things that have helped that might help you too when faced with serious challenges and setbacks.

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3 life wisdoms that transformed my life – and how they can change yours too

I recently started reflecting how I got to where I am today and the one thing I keep coming back to is – meeting Alan, my first life coach.

His wisdom has stayed with me over the years so I thought I’d share some of them with you.

    1. The story of the plant

It’s 1996, and Alan and I are sitting in the foyer of one of those large hotels in London.  It’s one of those posh hotels with a secluded space apart from the hustle and bustle of guests checking in and out.

Alan is sitting on one of those plush sofas; I choose the armchair.  Between us is a large coffee table with a large plant, one of those real ones, not the artificial sort.

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Why mistakes can be a confidence-booster

There was a time when I believed that, if only I had no more problems, challenges, disappointments and setbacks, then I would be happy.

shutterstock_220820908Of course, that was never going to happen. Problems happen, setbacks happen, I make mistakes, life happens. That’s unavoidable and part of being human.

It took me a long time to figure out that the only way to learn and grow, the only way to become wiser and more resilient is through problems, disappointments and setbacks.

But there’s a lot more to it.  It is said that a person who never failed, never tried anything so, when life happens, how do you know you can handle it? You know because

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What does it mean to be strong when we’re older?

I’ve always been intrigued by people’s general beliefs around what it means to be strong. They often say words to the effect of it meaning having a ‘stiff upper lip’, not being influenced by emotions, being slightly detached, having a forceful personality. Other words I heard being associated with ‘being strong’ are ‘power’ and ‘might’.

My own interpretation as to what it means to be strong when we’re older is different. Although on the surface this may not be regarded as age related, I believe that it becomes easier as we grow older.

When I was a child my Mum would tell me stories about the time when she and Dad lived in the jungles of Bolivia after escaping the Nazis. One story in particular had a huge impact on me. She would tell me about the time when

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