Do you trust yourself? No? Then here’s what you can do

I was on the bus and unintentionally listening to two women talking.  It sounded like a fairly intimate conversation.  Obviously, I did not turn around.

One was telling the other that she’d been offered what sounded like a great job but wasn’t sure whether or not to take it because she’d had made quite a few mistakes in the past and didn’t exactly trust her judgement.

The friend was trying to reassure her.

That got me thinking about self-trust, something that took me years to develop.

For many years my track record left a lot to be desired.

I mean, would you trust somebody who went after a man just to see if she can make him fall in love with her and then married him?

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If you think feeling confident is something airy fairy, think again

It lately occurred to me that you might wonder why the subject of feeling confident matters so much to me that keeps me coming back to it again and again.

The only answer I can give you is what it was like for me when I didn’t feel it.

The experience of my relationship with Jim, my ex-husband, had drained me of the little self-confidence I had when we married – not that I realised it at the time.

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What does it mean to be strong when we’re older?

I’ve always been intrigued by people’s general beliefs around what it means to be strong. They often say words to the effect of it meaning having a ‘stiff upper lip’, not being influenced by emotions, being slightly detached, having a forceful personality. Other words I heard being associated with ‘being strong’ are ‘power’ and ‘might’.

My own interpretation as to what it means to be strong when we’re older is different. Although on the surface this may not be regarded as age related, I believe that it becomes easier as we grow older.

When I was a child my Mum would tell me stories about the time when she and Dad lived in the jungles of Bolivia after escaping the Nazis. One story in particular had a huge impact on me. She would tell me about the time when

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