Here’s something I finally figured out: Worrying is a habit. A lot of it falls under the heading of ‘what if’. “What if I get made redundant?”, “what if (s/he) has an accident?”, “what if I’m delayed and I miss my flight?”, “what if the hospital tests show I have some dreadful disease?”. Which … [Read more...] about Is worry useful or useless? Here’s how to tell the difference
This is what I know: In order to keep learning and growing, we need to expand our comfort zone. Everybody knows that, right? But then I came across this article that suggests that stepping beyond our comfort zone can not only be hard work but it can also be very uncomfortable, at least until we master whatever we wanted to learn. That’s what it’s usually like to climb our learning curve, be it learning to drive, learning a new language or learning how to create better relationships. The more … [Read more...] about Don’t you wish it were easier?
Some years ago I attended a personal development weekend residential programme. By the second day we had all bonded and the facilitator set us an exercise: He asked for volunteers and Sarah raised her hand. She was selected and … [Read more...] about The power of the mind: how to make it work for you
As a life coach I have all kinds of people coming to me but I noticed lately that I have begun to attract an increasing number of people in financial difficulties an area I’m familiar with, both personally and professionally. Some of my clients, for example, have heard rumours of redundancy and have scared themselves into a standstill, unable to think. Most of them are in their late forties or early fifties – a difficult age when you are employed and perhaps about to lose your job. Whether … [Read more...] about What to do when a financial crisis hits home
If you’re due to retire it is because you have chosen to do so. However, that doesn’t mean you won’t experience anxiety – what will it be like? The uncertainty can be stressful and draining. In my conversations with people in the same situation I’m struck by how many suddenly become very busy. They tell me they have to tie loose ends; that they don’t want to leave a mess, that they have to hand over to their successor, that they have to train them from scratch. The extent of their … [Read more...] about Are you due to retire? If so, here’s how NOT to do it
When I turned 60 I had to face the fact that I was heading towards retirement, something I had never even considered. I probably was in denial and only came out of it because of a message from the HR department. I had been in my job for the last 8 years. I really enjoyed the work and I was well paid. Also, I had a really good relationship with my colleagues – all of which I knew I would lose once I actually retired. The HR message served to put the whole issue right in front of my face. I … [Read more...] about What does it mean to retire?