Sounds like the title of one of those old films, doesn’t it? But there’s nothing frivolous about the question. When some of my older female clients start working with me, they often say the same thing, “Now that I’m retired, I seem to have become invisible!”. How does one become an invisible woman when, before they retired, they were out there, making a contribution, making a difference? I have a friend, a very special woman. She’s vibrant, alive, USEFUL! She also has a close family and … [Read more...] about Are you the invisible woman?
I’ve always been intrigued by people’s general beliefs around what it means to be strong. They often say words to the effect of it meaning having a ‘stiff upper lip’, not being influenced by emotions, being slightly detached, having a forceful personality. Other words I heard being associated with ‘being strong’ are ‘power’ and ‘might’. My own interpretation as to what it means to be strong when we’re older is different. Although on the surface this may not be regarded as age related, I … [Read more...] about What does it mean to be strong when we’re older?
There’s a general belief that being courageous is the absence of fear. Nothing could be further from the truth. In my younger days, I used to allow fear to hold me back. Since then I worked with a life coach who helped me transform my life. Not long ago I wrote a blog called ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway – really?’ I went on to share the two biggest examples of ‘going for it’ in my life: leaving my marriage of 37 years and leaving my well paid job at the Institute of Directors. In both … [Read more...] about What does it mean to be courageous when we’re older?
My friend and colleague Riana Avis shares with us her reflections on ageing. I am very fortunate. I have several friends in their sixties and beyond; older than me by ten to fifteen years. Last year, my dad who is 80, got married for the third time. How lovely it is to see him happy as Larry. Both my grandmothers lived well into their eighties. My heart sings when I hear of an older person still working at age 100, like Jim Clements who still works two days a week at the company he joined as a … [Read more...] about Musings on the March of Time
Ever since I decided to work with senior and professional people nearing retirement – who are dreading it, I started a process of my own around my own age – 67. Although nothing in me fits any of the criteria as dictated by social norms such as appearance (I’m blessed with great genes), health and wellbeing, and the way I think and act, I was still wondering “is this it?” Surveys into the perception … [Read more...] about A new model for ageing