If you didn’t care what people said, what would you do differently?

I remember the first time this thought popped into my head: my stomach clenched with anxiety. I imagine this is a common reaction amongst us people pleasers or, as I prefer to call myself, recovering people pleaser.

shutterstock_63866632Just the idea of deliberately doing something that might displease somebody scared the hell out of me. In those days, the thought of rocking the boat felt threatening.

But here’s the thing, many of us reach a point when the status quo is no longer an option because we finally know we deserve better.

Looking back, I experienced many changes in my life, some which were hugely transformational. One of the most significant ones was when I decided I no longer wanted to be a secretary anymore and embarked on a post graduate diploma in Personnel Management.

The transformation came about not just because I was doing the programme. The programme changed the way I perceived myself. I had left school at 14 and, when I decided to enrol on this course, I was 36. It was the first time I pursued a dream and that required me to stand up to my parents who, for various reasons, were dead against it.

As I discovered, change happens when we take one step at a time. The best and lasting changes start with baby steps.

So here’s the thing. When you first embark on a journey to create something new or different from how things are at the moment, chances are you will hopeful and excited. Then, when you begin to notice progress, you will feel exhilarated.

As I have mentioned many times, this year I turned 70 and I continue to learn, change and grow. Yes, it can feel frustrating. Yes, it can feel uncomfortable when I stretch and expand my comfort zone. But, when I finally get it, understand it and use it, I feel incredibly alive.

If you want to move away from the status quo and do something for yourself without wondering what people might say, and could use some support, then please download my FREE e-book, ‘Make Friends With Yourself’. It will show you how, one step at a time.

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