Help! I’m feeling overwhelmed!

DSCN0768It’s been a while since I last wrote a blog.  Life seemed to have taken over and, I admit, I felt overwhelmed.

But, when I finally finished writing my third book, ‘Open Your Heart: The 7 Secrets of Strong And Loving Relationships’, I felt bereft.  I’d poured everything I had into this book for such a long time and now that it was done, I thought, “now what?”

And, at the same time that I finished the manuscript, I also launched my new online coaching program, ‘Conscious Loving For Women Over 50’.

This is the first time I developed a new product – something for women who can’t afford working one-2-one with me so I’m really excited about it.

Again, I worked really hard on this and I gave this all I had.  And now it’s done.  It’s a strange feeling!

If you want to know more, you can click on either one that applies to you:

If you are in a relationship

if you’re single

But, of course, I realised soon enough that I was wrong.  It’s not done – with my online coaching program I have the next modules to develop.  With my book I need to learn how to market it.

In both cases, I’m deeply grateful for the fact that there’s always more!  And that’s a way of thinking, an attitude, a way of living.

I’m particularly grateful that, at the age of 72 I can learn and grow and make a contribution. And I’m especially grateful that, despite my back pain, I can live a productive and fulfilled life.

And, because I have so much to be grateful for, I have to show up.

And that’s what, to me, it’s all about.  Showing up.

What does it mean to show up?

It means enjoying what you do, whether on your own or with the people in your life.  It means being with them whole-heartedly.  It means not letting your mind wander, not allowing yourself to get distracted or listening to that commentary that goes on and on in your head, thinking about what you just said or what you’re going to say next.  It means being really focused on what you’re doing, whether it’s preparing a meal or being with someone you care about.

It means being right here, right now.

Here are 3 ideas you can try when life sends you spinning in all directions and you’re all over the place:

  1. Buy a tiny little square gift box – big enough for one large earring or one chocolate. This is a ‘muga’ box.

In this box put in your little moments of joy.  Those teenie little moments that are so easy to miss.  Right now, it could be noticing trees in blossom, bird song, a sun rise, somebody’s smile.  Pick that moment and ‘put it’ in your ‘muga’ box to remember.

You might like to take that a particular little moment of joy ‘out of the box’ to remind yourself of the beauty that surrounds you when you’re in danger of forgetting.

  1. Buy a pretty looking booklet and use it as your Gratitude book.


At the end of each day, write between 3 and 5 things you’re grateful for.  You might be grateful for having somebody special in your life, for a roof over your head, for something pleasant that happened, or for something new you learned.


  1. Sign up for a Mindfulness course.

Mindfulness can enable you to change the way you think and feel about your experiences, especially those that are stressful. It can also improve your ability to deal with difficult situations and make better choices.

Which one works best for you?  Leave me a comment.  I’d love to know.


P.S.  I enable women build successful relationships, first with themselves and then with others.  That’s because our relationship with ourselves shapes all our other relationships.

Once this is in place, they’re then able to build relationships that are strong and loving.

If this is what you want too, call me on 020 8940 7056 or email me on for a FREE one hour exploratory conversation.







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