A conversation with a potential new client got me thinking about Alan, my first life coach.
When I first met him all I knew was that I was unhappy even though, at the time, I was unable to articulate the reason for my pain.
Even so, I decided to work with him. Why would I do that when I hadn’t even understood everything he told me about how he worked?
Because there was one thing I did know.
I didn’t want to stay in pain anymore and I didn’t know what to do about it.
I had always regarded myself as independent and self-sufficient but, clearly, whatever it was I needed, I couldn’t give it to myself.
Looking back, I can see that there are times when the life as we’re living it is no longer ‘fit for purpose’ or, rather, our thoughts, feelings, beliefs and, more than anything, our behaviours are no longer ‘fit for purpose’.
But, if you don’t know what else to do, how can you change anything? I was struggling and near to drowning.
Before Alan I’d spent years reading self-development books. Each book brought new hope that this would be the one that would make a difference. When it didn’t, I blamed myself.
I certainly knew a lot about thoughts and feelings and beliefs but I’ve learned since that knowledge without action is meaningless.
Oh, I sometimes did do the exercises but, when I saw no change, I gave up. There was no-one there to guide me, challenge me, champion me or stand by me when I was floundering.
That’s what I saw in Alan. Somebody who would do all that.
There are times in our life when we need a helping hand – not forever, just for a while.
Are you in this space right now? Could you use a helping hand, somebody to cheer you on, support you, guide you, be there for you?
If you’re ready – I mean really ready – then go to www.sueplumtree.com, click on Contact and arrange a complimentary exploratory conversation.
With love and gratitude,
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P.P.S. I coach women to grow their self-confidence so they can build fabulous relationships.