What story are you telling yourself?

Here’s a question: What story are you telling yourself about yourself?

We tell ourselves stories about every aspect of our life. Here’s an example. A personal favourite of mine is the ‘helpless’ story. Here’s one:

h“After 37 years, I decided I deserved better and left my marriage. I had no doubt that it was his fault we had reached this stage because I had a long list of complaints – everything he said or didn’t say and everything he did or didn’t do – that left me feeling resentful, frustrated, angry and hurt. People I thought were friends walked away and I was left feeling alone and misunderstood. I talked about my feelings all the time.

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What is resilience and how can I get some of that?

As recently as a few years ago I had two ‘qualities’ that controlled my life:

The words speak for themselves
The words speak for themselves

One was that, if I didn’t have something to worry about, I’d worry about that. The other one was a habit a friend called ‘catastrophising’. I used to be very good at it.

As a result, my life felt pretty scary. It often felt like I was about to fall into the abyss.

That memory came to me because, over

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Do you feel really loved?

Most of us love the way we love, full stop. We rarely wonder if the way we express it is actually experienced as intended. Does our way of loving actually work for our partner? And does their way work for us? We can easily feel unloved if their way of loving doesn’t touch us. That’s what happened to my ex and me.

"Can you feel how much I love you?"
“Can you feel how much I love you?”

I felt devastated when

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