Today I’m privileged to share with you the wisdom and the gift of a dear friend of mine, writer and performer, Yang-May Ooi. Aged 52, she’s is taking to the West End stage for the first time her personal story. Yang-May is an award-winning TEDx speaker, bestselling author and acclaimed story performer. Take a look at her website www.StoryGuru.co.uk. Here she speaks of her background, what brought her to this point in her life and why she's compelled to share her story. … [Read more...] about The Legacy of Yang-May Ooi – ‘Bound Feet Blues’
Every week I sit in front of my computer and ask myself, “what do I know I can write about?” One of the things I’m beginning to really know about is being happy. That’s a huge blessing – not just because I’m happy but because I’m aware that I’m happy. Interestingly, I seem to coming across several books researching the subject. The latest is ‘Are you fully charged?’ by Tom Rath. What brought the subject to mind was a combination of a particular chapter and something I experienced last Friday … [Read more...] about How to lead a happier life
There was a time when I believed that, if only I had no more problems, challenges, disappointments and setbacks, then I would be happy. Of course, that was never going to happen. Problems happen, setbacks happen, I make mistakes, life happens. That’s unavoidable and part of being human. It took me a long time to figure out that the only way to learn and grow, the only way to become wiser and more resilient is through problems, disappointments and setbacks. But there’s a lot more to it. It is … [Read more...] about Why mistakes can be a confidence-booster
For a long time people used to say to me, “Get out of your own way!” That always used to puzzle me. "What the hell does that mean!?!", I wondered. "How does one stand in one’s own way?" The whole thing sounded just too woolly. Then … [Read more...] about How I nearly sabotaged myself
Over the years I’ve noticed that, as I change, my definition of what success means to me changes too. When I was young it was a question of the image I presented. I spent time, effort and money to look professional, warm and approachable – expensive clothes, jackets with padded shoulders, warm colours and natural fabrics. Part of the image included spending money on things I couldn’t really afford, all in an effort to appear ‘successful’. … [Read more...] about Are you successful?
Here’s a question: What story are you telling yourself about yourself? We have stories we tell ourselves about anything and everything – ourselves, other people and life in general. A personal favourite of mine is the ‘helpless’ story. This one is – or could have been – mine: “After 37 years, I decided I deserved better and finally left my marriage. Of course, it was his fault. I had a list of complaints as long as my arm: everything he said or didn’t say; everything he did or didn’t do – … [Read more...] about How changing my story changed my life