A favourite refrain of my parents’ when I wanted to do something or other that didn’t meet with their approval was, “What will the neighbours say?” The idea that I had to make sure I did nothing that might … [Read more...] about What stops you from being true to yourself
The idea that you can feel powerful doesn’t sit comfortably, especially if you are a woman. It’s a word most people usually associated with men. So when I suggest to a client that she’s more powerful than she imagines, the reaction is ambivalent. That changes when I go on to describe my definition of what it means to be powerful: To have the ability to influence, to make things happen, to make a difference. … [Read more...] about The beauty of power and how to get more of it
Today I’m privileged to share with you the wisdom and the gift of a dear friend of mine, writer and performer, Yang-May Ooi. Aged 52, she’s is taking to the West End stage for the first time her personal story. Yang-May is an award-winning TEDx speaker, bestselling author and acclaimed story performer. Take a look at her website www.StoryGuru.co.uk. Here she speaks of her background, what brought her to this point in her life and why she's compelled to share her story. … [Read more...] about The Legacy of Yang-May Ooi – ‘Bound Feet Blues’
This is what I know: In order to keep learning and growing, we need to expand our comfort zone. Everybody knows that, right? But then I came across this article that suggests that stepping beyond our comfort zone can not only be hard work but it can also be very uncomfortable, at least until we master whatever we wanted to learn. That’s what it’s usually like to climb our learning curve, be it learning to drive, learning a new language or learning how to create better relationships. The more … [Read more...] about Don’t you wish it were easier?
There was a time when I believed that, if only I had no more problems, challenges, disappointments and setbacks, then I would be happy. Of course, that was never going to happen. Problems happen, setbacks happen, I make mistakes, life happens. That’s unavoidable and part of being human. It took me a long time to figure out that the only way to learn and grow, the only way to become wiser and more resilient is through problems, disappointments and setbacks. But there’s a lot more to it. It is … [Read more...] about Why mistakes can be a confidence-booster
Ever since I decided to work with senior and professional people nearing retirement – who are dreading it, I started a process of my own around my own age – 67. Although nothing in me fits any of the criteria as dictated by social norms such as appearance (I’m blessed with great genes), health and wellbeing, and the way I think and act, I was still wondering “is this it?” Surveys into the perception … [Read more...] about A new model for ageing