The idea that I had to make sure I did nothing that might
Worrying is a habit. A lot of it falls under the heading of ‘what if’. “What if I get made redundant?”, “what if (s/he) has an accident?”, “what if I’m delayed and I miss my flight?”, “what if the hospital tests show I have some dreadful disease?”. Which
Recommendation No. 1:
Don’t try to change other people. Not only does it not work; it creates resentment and distance.
It won’t surprise you to hear that I get a lot of resistance when I suggest this. “I don’t have the time”, “I have too much to do” and the worst excuse of the lot, “it would be selfish”.
This is what I know:
In order to keep learning and growing, we need to expand our comfort zone. Everybody knows that, right?
But then I came across this article that suggests that stepping beyond our comfort zone can not only be hard work but it can also be very uncomfortable, at least until we master whatever we wanted to learn.
The more we want something, the more we’re likely to be determined to succeed. And that’s
It was November about 4 years ago – near Christmas but not near enough for me to slow down so I kept pushing myself. There was so much to do! Not just my work but my social life too. There were demands and expectations from people, and things I would normally handle easily, became a real challenge – like saying ‘No’.
Not only that, but
He asked for volunteers and Sarah raised her hand. She was selected and
The house my husband and I had lived in for 22 years had finally been sold. At last I could move on from my 37-year marriage. I had already chosen a flat. Everything was going well.
I get upset when I read an obituary about some well-known personality who died of some lingering illness who, that obituary says, had accepted their situation and never complained. The tone is always one of admiration.
Apparently, they keep their pain and suffering to themselves because they don’t want to burden the people they love. Sounds
I was brought up to believe that other people’s needs and desires always came first, especially when they conflicted with mine. As a result of this, two things happened:
- I was often out of touch with my own needs and desires, and
- When I did recognise them I was either too afraid of expressing them or diluted them in such a way that they mostly went unheard.