Does love help prevent accidents?

On Tuesday two weeks ago, just after coming out from my dentist for my regular check-up, I tripped over a raised slab on the pavement and fell heavily on my face.

One of my front teeth was pushed down so it touched my lip.  I was unable to close my mouth, I badly hurt my wrist trying to buffer my fall, I bruised my ribs so it hurt to breathe, and I was generally bruised and sore.

As I lay there, face down, unable to move, a kind soul turned me over gently and, with the help of a second Good Samaritan, they carefully sat me against the wall.  All I could think of at that moment was my tooth, especially since I was less than 5 minutes away from my dentist’s surgery.

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If you think feeling confident is something airy fairy, think again

It lately occurred to me that you might wonder why the subject of feeling confident matters so much to me that keeps me coming back to it again and again.

The only answer I can give you is what it was like for me when I didn’t feel it.

The experience of my relationship with Jim, my ex-husband, had drained me of the little self-confidence I had when we married – not that I realised it at the time.

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Why expressing love in your relationship is not as easy as you might think

Jim, my ex husband, was my first real relationship and I was his. Neither one of us knew anything about expressing love.

We believed that love was just a feeling.

If being with Paul, my partner, taught me anything, it is that love is more than a feeling; it’s a verb. It’s behaviours. But not just any old behaviours.  It’s behaviours that our partner actually recognises as love.

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What to do when you’re feeling overwhelmed

When you’ve got a cold, the obvious thing to do is to take some cold remedy.

When you can’t sleep, the doctor might prescribe a mild sedative.

Or when you’re constantly tired then the advice is obvious:

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Another failed diet? Check out your relationship!

Newsflash!

Focusing on your relationship will improve your health!

Putting on weight when you worked so hard at losing it in the first place is so frustrating!

And, when your energy levels and your self-confidence are low, the quality of your life as a whole is affected.

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What has love and happiness got to do with your health and wellbeing?

I recently gave a talk about how I met my ex-husband, Jim.  As I began to develop the story it brought back an important memory which I would like to share with you.

The real story doesn’t actually start when I first met Jim.  It started with the kind of young woman I was – insecure, unsure of her attractiveness and lovability.

As a result, I made some very poor choices, the worst of which was the choice of life partner.

Having made my choice, I stayed in my marriage for 37 years, despite the bitter disappointment and emotional pain, and the only way I could do so was by pretending it wasn’t all that bad.

This is called ‘being in denial’ and I became so good at it that I actually came to believe my own deceptions.

But here’s the thing.

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Haven’t I been here before?

How long does it take to learn that lesson?

You may remember this question I asked you only a month ago:

“How long do you keep on doing the same thing over and over again before you realise it ain’t working!”

I sort of ‘woke up’ when I caught myself thinking, “Hang on a minute! Haven’t I been here before?”

I’m so wedded to achieving my big dream that I keep trying out all kinds of things. That’s a good thing, isn’t it? I’m always preaching about experimenting.

I’m also always adding the caveat – if it works, carry on doing it; if it doesn’t, try something else.

I just realised I wasn’t listening to myself.

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