Would you like to know the secret to closer relationships?

hI get upset when I read an obituary about some well-known personality who died of some lingering illness who, that obituary says, had accepted their situation and never complained. The tone is always one of admiration.

Apparently, they keep their pain and suffering to themselves because they don’t want to burden the people they love. Sounds

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Never have grotty relationships again!

I was recently talking with Sally (not her real name), a friend of mine. She’s a lovely person, the kind that is always there for you. The trouble is, she’s always complaining that she doesn’t get much back so she tends to end up exhausted and resentful.

"After all I've done for them!"
“After all I’ve done for them!”

Sally is a people-pleaser, trying to be all things to all people but, as I’ve said to her again and again – it’s clearly not working for her. Bottom line, she’s not a happy woman. And she’s definitely not the only one.

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A new model for ageing

Ever since I decided to work with senior and professional people nearing retirement – who are dreading it, I started a process of my own around my own age – 67.  Although nothing in me fits any of the criteria as dictated by social norms such as appearance (I’m blessed with great genes), health and wellbeing, and the way I think and act, I was still wondering “is this it?”

Surveys into the perception

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The Downside of Expectations

Expectations are like a double-edged sword – some are absolutely appropriate, even helpful, some are out of date and some are positively harmful.

Over time, as I began to learn to know myself better I started to notice my expectations – the ones that worked well for me and the ones that didn’t.

The ones that worked well for me tended to focus on how I expected to be treated but I also used to have expectations

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If You Don’t Expect Anything, You Can’t Be Disappointed

“If you don’t expect anything, you can’t end up disappointed”, my friend said. Does this sound familiar?
I used to say this a lot and, guess what?, I ended up with very little and that never stopped me from feeling disappointed.

Over time, I began to have dreams. I began to see a clear purpose to my life and I began to want more. That’s when my life changed. The most important thing I discovered was that the quality of my life starts with me, being clear about what really matters to me and then talking about it to friends, interested strangers, even those

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Grow Your Confidence and Fabulous Relationships will Follow