I remember the first time this thought popped into my head: my stomach clenched with anxiety. I imagine this is a common reaction amongst us people pleasers or, as I prefer to call myself, recovering people pleaser. Just the idea of deliberately doing something that might displease somebody scared the hell out of me. In those days, the thought of rocking the boat felt threatening. But here’s the thing, many of us reach a point when the status quo is no longer an option because we finally know … [Read more...] about If you didn’t care what people said, what would you do differently?
Feeling invisible can be very debilitating. I can’t begin to imagine what it must be like to feel unseen, unheard, even unloved? This feeling of being invisible often seems to strike once women in particular retire. I recently started working with Sonia (not her real name). Sonia is 71, her husband is 74 and they’ve been married 41 years. When we … [Read more...] about If you want to rekindle a relationship, try this
Just because you can’t see, touch, feel, taste or smell it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. As a matter of fact, the unseen world is more real than anything you can experience with your five senses. … [Read more...] about How to make the unseen world work for you
There was a time when I believed that, if only I had no more problems, challenges, disappointments and setbacks, then I would be happy. Of course, that was never going to happen. Problems happen, setbacks happen, I make mistakes, life happens. That’s unavoidable and part of being human. It took me a long time to figure out that the only way to learn and grow, the only way to become wiser and more resilient is through problems, disappointments and setbacks. But there’s a lot more to it. It is … [Read more...] about Why mistakes can be a confidence-booster
Over the years I’ve noticed that, as I change, my definition of what success means to me changes too. When I was young it was a question of the image I presented. I spent time, effort and money to look professional, warm and approachable – expensive clothes, jackets with padded shoulders, warm colours and natural fabrics. Part of the image included spending money on things I couldn’t really afford, all in an effort to appear ‘successful’. … [Read more...] about Are you successful?
This question – “who do you think you are?” – may sound a bit vague but is nothing of the sort. It’s as practical and concrete as a brick. Who we think we are determines … [Read more...] about Who do you think you are?