I recently started wondering about the word ‘judgemental’ because it’s usually interpreted as being a negative thing to be.

dreamstime_xs_22506591-300x225_002I see it differently.  I believe we all – every single one of us – is judgemental or, in (more…)

 The whole subject of relationships is one that really fascinates me – the more I find out about what works and what doesn’t work, the more questions come up for me.

dreamstime_xs_12274919-300x292One of the problems in long term relationships is that we no longer really see each (more…)

How to deal with grief

Posted by Sue Plumtree on April 11, 2016
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When you think of grief, the first thought tends to go to losing somebody you love – a partner, a family member or a friend.

shutterstock_111817763But death is not the only loss that causes us to grieve.  You can (more…)

Looking back to when I first met Jim, my husband, I realise that the main reason I was attracted to him was mainly because he seemed to have no expectations about how I should be – nothing like my Dad.

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How to deal with loss

Posted by Sue Plumtree on March 28, 2016
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Loss can hit at any time.  Sometimes it feels as we’d been struck by a bolt of lightning.

My Dad died aged 80 in 1988.  The cause of death was cancer combined with old age.  I was blessed in that I was able to hold him in my arms as he died.

dreamstime_xs_14021738-300x200I remember that my main feeling, apart from loss and deep sadness, was tenderness and a sense of completion.  I was 43 and my Mum was 71.

The one thing (more…)

The last couple of weeks felt like I was riding a tiger holding on to the tail for dear life. Does this analogy chime with you?

shutterstock_111817763A better one is probably the one of riding a rollercoaster because I (more…)

I’m always going on about how important it is to live the third stage of your life to the absolute fullest but what does that mean and how do you get to live those years?

GOPR1113-300x225As passionate as I am about this, I think I have (more…)

One of the main problems in long-term partnerships is that, sometimes, partners tend to take each other for granted.

dreamstime_xs_15425794-300x300They stop seeing each other and make assumptions about what they’re thinking or feeling. Often, they don’t see the (more…)

What is your way of loving?

Posted by Sue Plumtree on February 29, 2016
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Let me ask you this: “How do you express your love for your partner, especially if you’ve been together a long time?”

dreamstime_xs_12274919-300x292My own experience and anecdotal evidence shows that (more…)

I recently discovered a significant blind spot of mine:  how money gradually destroyed my marriage.  Up until then I had no idea how money played such a huge and damaging role.

DSCN0942As I started reflecting, old memories started to flood in. (more…)

I love the word ‘leader’. To me, it’s one of those BIG words (like ‘love’ and ‘power’) that mean a lot more than the narrow definition we’re usually offered.

shutterstock_220820908-200x300I went on the internet to find definitions about what it means to be (more…)

What to do if you feel unloved

Posted by Sue Plumtree on February 08, 2016
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Every single one of us will, at some time or another, have felt unloved – by their partner or a member of their family or perhaps they feel that, for various reasons, a friend doesn’t care about them. I know that was true for me.

shutterstock_220880782-300x199And then I’d feel crushed as, I imagine, you did too. (more…)