After you’ve been together for some times it’s easy to fall into bad habits that can kill your love for each other. Here are 5 behaviours that are both individually and collectively very powerful in enabling you to rekindle your love – but you will have to take the first step. That’s because you only have control over your own behaviour. When you start changing your behaviour, it’s almost 100% guaranteed that you partner will respond in kind. … [Read more...] about 5 behaviours that can rekindle love
If you’d said that to me a few years back, I would have been seriously pissed at you! Unfortunately, I’ve come to agree that we often find different ways to undermine the people we say we love, even though we don’t really mean to. Here’s an example. Example No. 1: I’ll start with a joke to lighten things up: A mother is pushing a pram down the street carrying her 10 year old child. A woman approaches her and says, with sympathy, “how unfortunate your son is disabled and can’t … [Read more...] about 7 behaviours that destroy love
As you may or may not know, I finished the manuscript of my latest book. I had worked on it for several months, giving it all I had. And then I was done. Instead of feeling relieved and excited I felt empty. “What now?”, I wondered. As it happened, I was due for my next appointment with Bernie, my Alexander Technique practitioner. Bernie is a special woman – patient, compassionate and wise. On that day, I told her I had finished my book and wondered what on earth to do next. She … [Read more...] about Becoming a hedonist will transform your life
Far too often a hear people say that they lack a sense of purpose. They experience a sense of emptiness and meaninglessness they don’t know how to fill. It’s like a gaping wound. Sometimes they tell me they feel like they should be grateful because, on the outside, many appear to have everything and yet they still wonder “is this all there is?” I know that feeling all too well. For many years I’d get up in the morning, have my breakfast, go to work, do my job, go back home, have … [Read more...] about Why finding your purpose stops you worrying about the future
I was talking to a good friend of mine, a woman who quite often has occasion to see Paul, my partner, and me together. One of the things Paul loves to do and has done for many years is ballroom dancing which takes place once a month on a Saturday. The point is that we’re only together weekends so another woman might object at him going off to do his own thing. My friend wondered, “don’t you mind?” I replied, “not only do I NOT mind, I actively encourage him to go because … [Read more...] about Is this true love?
Fiona, a new client, was telling me about her relationship. It was a story that brought up memories of my own marriage all those years ago. I remember trying all sorts of things that I believed would make Jim love me – something I was never able to achieve. It was only years later that I finally recognised part of the reason my marriage died. … [Read more...] about It really does take two to tango