About Sue

I married just before I turned 21 and remained married for the next 37 years. Thirty-seven years feeling unloved, invisible, unimportant and lonely. Having tried – and failed – for many years to create the closeness and intimacy I so longed for, I finally reached a point when I knew I deserved better.

Leaving my marriage was a watershed for me.

Despite the fact that I was the one who initiated the separation, it was one of the most painful choices I had ever made and I grieved bitterly. Yet, I never doubted even for an instant that I’d made the right decision.

My 60th birthday.

My next watershed came about shortly after I left my marriage:

I was fast approaching my 60th birthday. I had been feeling really vulnerable, trying to figure out what being 60 actually meant to me. Eventually I realised that I had intimidated myself into believing, even briefly, that as a 60-year-old I would no longer make a meaningful contribution or participate in life.

What made this so strange was that the evidence of my life even then was the complete opposite.

But one question kept popping up:  “will I ever find love?”

I spent the next 12 years creating a life that’s turned out to be the richest in love, meaning and purpose. I’m doing things I have never done before – including paragliding in Turkey which was a truly joyful experience.

And then just weeks after my return, I met the man who turned out to be my soulmate.  My life feels complete.

Here’s a quote by Daisaku Ikeda, a Buddhist philosopher. It caught my eye because it’s not only a belief I hold close to my heart but also because the evidence proves it to be true in every aspect of my life.  More than that, I wholeheartedly believe that this is a possibility that can be true for you too.

“The German author, Hermann Hesse (1877-1962), writes, “… there are certainly many people who, as they age, become increasingly vigorous and energetic, more broad-minded and tolerant, living with a greater sense of freedom and assurance. It is important to remember that ageing and growing old are not necessarily the same thing.”