When I decided to write something about persistence I looked around for a suitable quote and this one sounded the most like me.
“Perseverance is stubbornness with a purpose.”
It made me smile because I sometimes I wonder if I’m just too pig-headed to let go.
But looking back over the last 10 months or so, it was persistence (or stubbornness or pig-headedness) in the face of more setbacks and frustrations than I care to remember that kept me determined to finish my manuscript.
The first challenge I remember after I was almost half way through writing my book was getting advice about how I should structure it.
Not surprising, it was exactly the opposite from the way I’d written it but, because I really wanted my book to be the best it could be and the person giving me the advice was an experienced writer, I followed her suggestion and re-arranged and re-tweaked the whole lot. Believe me, it was not easy!
Then I looked at it again and thought, “Actually, the way I did it originally flows much better.”
And so I went back to the drawing board and turned it around again which took me ages because I’d lost some material along the way.
When I finished it was an awesome moment.
I was so chuffed, I ate a whole box of M&S dark chocolate cherry brandies – not all in one go but near enough.
I thought my book was now ready to have it read by a few wonderful people who were willing to give me their time and detailed feedback.
But, before I could send it out I came across a blog by Joanna Penn (my book marketing guru) who urged all authors to have their precious work edited because we’re too close to see what’s not working as well as it should.
And so I decided to invest in having my manuscript edited and sent it off to my editor and friend, Zoe Meyer, who edited my autobiography a few years previously.
While she was doing her job I realised I had left out a lot of material I’d forgotten to include!
And so, when she sent me back my manuscript with her recommendations, I had another lot for her to do!
At last! Finally! The deed was done! Yay!
That’s when I contacted Tim Gray, the man who was to format my Word document and make it look like a real book.
“Let’s do it!”, I told him.
And he did.
When I received the print proof I thought it would be a formality but that was not the case.
As thrilling as it was to hold my beloved book in my hands, it was, unfortunately, a bitter disappointment. Tim advised me not to approve it.
And so, after anxious days hoping they would resolve the matter quickly, I was finally forced to cancel my book launch. To my eternal gratitude, I got lots of support and encouragement.
There have been so many ‘tearing-hair-out’ moments, it’s a wonder I still have hair!
So what keeps me going? Is it persistence? Is it pig-headedness?
Yes, partly, but what really drives me is that I have a purpose, a mission, a dream, and I’m determined that nothing will get in my way.
My book – my beautiful book – will be available soon and then, it will all have been worth it.
I already have my next project in mind!
With love and gratitude,
P.S. My third book, ‘Open Your Heart: The 7 Secrets Of Strong And Loving Relationships’ will be launched in the next couple of weeks.
P.P.S. I enable women build strong and loving relationships, first with themselves and then with others. That’s because your relationship with yourself shapes all your other relationships.
If you’d like to find out how you can do that email me on firstname.lastname@example.org for a FREE one hour exploratory conversation.