Hi, I am Sue. My passion is relationships – understanding what makes them joyful, what makes them painful, what creates intimacy, what creates distance and, especially, how to create the love you long for.
I typically work with women who have forgotten what it feels like to be loved – as I did for so many years – women who want to rekindle the romance in their relationship, and feel special, cherished and desired, as I do now.
I am based in Richmond and I started my journey when I turned 56. That’s when I met my life coach and my life was never the same again. He stood by me every step of the way, holding my vision of the kind of life I wanted to live and the kind of person I wanted to be and the kind of relationship I wanted to have.
I have lived a life rich in joy and pain, disappointments and triumphs, failures and victories. I have suffered as I’m sure you too have suffered.
In the 12 years since I left my marriage aged 60, I went on to create a life filled with love, happiness and meaning. Best of all, only months after I turned 70, I met the most wonderful man who turned out to be my soulmate.
I soon discovered that meeting somebody wonderful is the easy part. Maintaining that relationship is the challenge. Even better, I know how I’m doing that.
That’s what makes me uniquely qualified to empower you to transform and create relationships where you finally feel loved, valued and appreciated.
What was it like working with a life coach?
There are those who need a helping hand for a time, as I did. I know that I wouldn’t have been able to create this life without the unstinting support and encouragement of my own life coach. I had never before experienced a relationship like the one I had with him.
For the first time I felt truly heard and understood. I was able to tell him about my frustrations, resentments and fears. I would continually blame others, especially my ex-husband, for my unhappiness and dissatisfaction, yet he never wavered. He challenged me, held up the metaphorical mirror so that, for the first time, I started to see the role I played in the creation of the life I insisted I did not want.
“I went feeling slightly anxious about what I would contribute and I was pleasantly surprised. The format was good, and through clear structures, allowed everyone to share their stories, and their hopes. Your workshop reinforced my beliefs regarding relationships, and presented ideas and tools to change my own behaviour, in situations which were not harmonious. This was very powerful. It gave me extra dimensions in how I will go forward, how not to lose myself in a situation that is not reciprocal and how to make changes.”
"The workshop was amazing. Sue demonstrated expert knowledge and systems to help people find and keep meaningful love relationships. Every participant was treated as an individual, their expectations discussed and met. There were many focused activities to help make the shifts. I left the workshop believing in love, with a rich toolkit of actionable steps, adapted to make my relationship better. Since the workshop, the quality of my relationship has improved immensely and we are already planning for bigger commitments in our loving relationship".
"Your workshop ‘Relationships Revolution’ reminded me what I need to do to educate (and re-educate!) people to treat me better. I also learned to recognise it when people try to manipulate or control me and I now know how to stop it. You also reminded me that I have to value myself first before I can expect other people to value me. More than that, you reminded me that I’m worthy of a loving, fulfilling and happy relationship.”
“I cannot begin to say how much Sue’s expertise has helped me. Over the past year Sue has gently guided me out of a very self-sabotaging dark place into the present self-accepting person that I find myself to be today.
Our meetings, complete with homework, have changed me from a woman with low self-esteem to one where the value of my True Self is now embedded in my heart. With Sue’s help, I have closed the door to living in my past and helped me deal with some difficulties that I have had since my childhood. Thank you Sue, for helping me become the woman I am today!”
“Thank you Sue for listening in such a supportive way that enabled me to hear and recognise myself, and to reconnect with the things I value most”
Feedback workshop: ‘Developing Rewarding Relationships’: “Not just what I hoped but much, much more! Thanks!”
Feedback workshop: ‘Developing Rewarding Relationships’: “Sue is a tremendous teacher, teaching from life experience and straight from the heart, with passion.”
Feedback workshop: ‘Developing Rewarding Relationships’: “Sue is an inspiring coach. A weekend with her might well change your life completely. You will certainly get a lot of valuable insights.”
“Having just finished working with you I’m looking back over the last 12 sessions and the changes are awesome! My relationship with my family, friends and work colleagues has been transformed! I used to see myself as a victim, blaming other people. Now I look within myself and I realised I’m responsible for me! That’s HUGE! I realise now that I’m in control of my life! I feel reborn!”
“You have the empathy to understand people’s problems and their deepest fears. I particularly appreciate your ‘down-to-earthness’ when you make suggestions. I find the way you communicate (clearly, firmly as well as with humour) just right for someone who feels on the brink of an abyss of un-knowing – a scary place! You’re particularly good at picking us up, dusting us down and then placing us on an illuminated path, making a brighter future ahead. Thank you!”
“It’s hard for me to articulate just how much you have helped me over the last few months. I was struggling with many things. You have helped me to shift my perspective on life, and get to know, understand and accept myself a lot more. It’s sometimes painful to face the truth but so wonderful to come out at the other end liking who you are and becoming more empowered. Thank you, Sue!”
“Sue is an inspirational guide to bring the best out of yourself. She is encouraging, never puts you down, and makes suggestions to work on to help you enhance your life.”
“Sue, you helped me to understand myself better. This has enabled me to know my Gremlins and stop them controlling me, leading to a happier and more fulfilling life.”
“Sue, your gentle guidance liberated me to embark on the greatest years of my life so far (I am 63) and to find renewed joy in living which is priceless and the greatest gift you could have given me. No amount of money would be enough to pay for what your skills have brought about, Sue! With love and grateful thanks,”
“Working with Sue enabled me to move out of a very self-sabotaging dark place into the present self-accepting person that I find myself to be today which is now been embedded in my heart. I cannot recommend her highly enough as a mentor, life coach and an inspiring person. She has not only exceeded my expectations, but she helped me close the door to living in my past. I am truly grateful. Thank you, Sue.”
“Sue, you are simply a wonderful and wise woman, very intuitive and insightful. Without your gentle but firm guidance I know I would still be stuck with no clear direction. Thank you!”
“Dear Sue, I have some good news: I have been asked to relocate to Essex to take a new area that needs my skills to sort it out and, in return, I get a great relocation package, and Tim and I are buying a house together! If you had told me a year ago that I would be getting such positive feedback from the senior leaders, would have met such a great man and that I would be moving to Essex to start a new life with him I would never have believed you! See how much your coaching has helped me! Thanks, Sue!”
“When I started working with you I was personally and business-wise at a very low ebb. I don’t know how you did it but I now have complete clarity of what I want from life and how to achieve it! I have worked with mentors and with business coaches in the past but you have been able to combine both roles. I would describe you as a Samaritan, Friend and Mentor. With your help I have been able to close the door on two very stressful and worrying years, and I have regained my momentum to get on with and enjoy life. Thanks for being in my corner.”
Roger, Owner and Business Development Director
“…Sue helps me realise my true potential in life as a Step Mum, wife and, of course, business woman. She seems to be able to unravel my mind and set me on clear paths to success of a different kind. Success for my family is very different from success for my business. She is tough. Sue does not allow you to hide in a corner; she challenges your deepest thoughts and she helps you find your purpose in life.”
“Dear Sue, Where to start? It’s been a year now that I’ve worked with you and I would never believe a year ago the changes I’ve made and the things I’ve done.”
“Thank you for your support and professional expertise that helped me through it all.”
“You are fantastic at what you do! I now know that anything is possible! I did it, Sue! Thank you for helping me believe I could!”
“As one of Sue’s younger clients, coming out of university and into the real world of work and life changes, I was struggling to find my way and get the ball rolling. She really helped me to focus my mind and hone in on what I really wanted to do in my career and in my life.”
“There were many tears shed and I managed to work my way through plenty of tissues and cups of tea but Sue’s warm and safe environment helped me to open up. Our sessions forced me to put essential time aside to reflect on all aspects of my life and create a good equal and organised balance. It was what I really needed!”
“Sue helped me to clear my head and stretch out my thoughts out, one by one. Did you ever expect this last year? I didn’t! Thank you, Sue.”
“Dear Sue, I would like to thank you for the strong support you provided me this past year. Your understanding and ability to focus me coupled with a good sense of humour ensured that our sessions were fruitful. The goals set at the beginning have nearly all been achieved and the added value of being able to discuss openly my ideas with someone with no axe to grind was of immense value to me. I would recommend your services to anyone looking to make changes in both their personal life as well as business. Many thanks.”
What does more mean to you?
As you move into your fifties, you might start to wonder what comes next – you might be experiencing new feelings, new desires even new anxieties, especially if you can’t imagine what lies ahead.
In other words, you might want more than you’ve had so far but you don’t know what that ‘more’ might look or feel like. All you know is that you would like to feel happier, experience more joy, do something that gives your life more meaning, to know that your life has a point – if you only knew what that might be.
I had a client. She was 68. When we first talked, I asked her what makes her happy or fulfilled – without even stopping for breath, she said “I don’t know”. And she said it again when I asked her what really mattered to her, again without stopping to think about it.
Over time, I asked her questions that she had never considered before, questions that were intended to encourage her to start looking at things in a different way. Some of these questions enabled her to discover that there was more than one way to interpret all kinds of different experiences.
Gradually, she began to notice new options, new opportunities, new possibilities.
We then moved to the next phase: how to create a life that is rich in love, meaning and joy.
The 5 stages to do that are:
Re-evaluate your values and beliefs. You will identify the beliefs that hold you back and replace them with beliefs that support your desires.
Get to know, like and trust yourself. This is because people take you at your own valuation. If you don’t particularly like yourself, if you’re self-critical, if you take yourself for granted or beat yourself up – then this is how you, unintentionally, educate people on how to treat you.
You’re now ready to set personal boundaries. More importantly, you become able to affirm them. It’s how you change other people’s behaviours towards you. This means that you will be able to re-create your relationships, make them kinder, more thoughtful.
The choices you make determine the quality of your life and your relationships. This is how you create your life: choice-by choice-by choice. The main difference is that your choices will now be deliberate rather than habitual.
The fundamental changes you have implemented are based on how you perceive and interpret everything that happens. You will discover that nothing has meaning except the meaning you decide something has. And you will discover possibilities you never even knew existed.
These stages combine to create more love, more meaning and more fulfilment. How? Because, when you change, everything changes – not just your relationships but your whole environment changes too.
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